Please read the following with curiosity – how does this fit for you or how does it not? These perspectives are a framework for your own self-discovery!
Type 1, The Perfectionist:
Attention goes to error and correcting error.
Stress in Type: become more critical or judgmental of self or other
Stress moving toward Stress Point: turn their anger inward and become distressed or depressed or collapse into shame; feel indignant that their expectations are not being met
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: becoming hyperactive or busy and unable to focus
Type 2, The Giver:
Attention goes to the needs and wants or others
Stress in Type: get busier trying to please others, flattery
Stress moving toward Stress Point: when their giving is not acknowledged can become irritable and attacking; blame and make demands; become controlling, distrustful and isolated
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: collapsing into feeling shame and not good enough; feeling cut off and abandoned
Type 3, The Performer:
Attention goes to task and goals, accomplishments and a successful image
Stress in Type: get busier working on gaining approval for accomplishments and building image of success
Stress moving toward Stress Point: procrastinate, become indecisive and apathetic; numb out with more work, drugs, TV, etc; become less productive and more inefficient
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: becoming fearful about what others are thinking about you and trying to get reassurance or give it to important others
Type Four, The Romantic:
Attention goes to the longed for ideal, what is missing in the present, idealizing the future, and intensity and depth in relationships
Stress in Type: get melancholy or envious about what’s lacking in self; feeling shame
Stress moving toward Stress Point: feel trapped and do what others want and can’t say no; try to manipulate others into loving them to fill their emptiness; deny and repress their needs; become dependent
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: get more critical and judgmental of self and others; inner critic gets louder
Type Five, The Observer:
Attention goes to potential intrusion (what is expected from others), intellectual pursuits, and the world of ideas.
Stress in Type: withdraw into themselves and their thoughts
Stress moving toward Stress Point: become scattered and distracted; hide from feelings and relationships in multiple ideas, food, drugs or excessive activity
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: deny what really needs effort by putting effort toward something they are competent; become more controlling and blaming of others
Type Six, The Loyal Skeptic:
Attention goes to potential danger or what could go wrong and searching or certainty
Stress in Type: become obsessed with all the possibilities in a situation; consumed with doubt; become paralyzed or conversely move toward risk
Stress moving toward Stress Point: engage franticly in activity to avoid anxiety; take on role or image to feel secure; become aggressive or rigid; tell lies about themselves to cover up or get ahead
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: distract themselves with inessential activity
Type Seven, The Epicure:
Attention goes multiple options, the next interesting or fun possibility or fascinating ideal
Stress in Type: become more scattered and frantic moving from one thing to another
Stress moving toward Stress Point: become more critical and judgmental of others; lose humor; become obsessive, irritable and blame others
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: isolate themselves from world and their feelings; escape into books, computers
Type Eight, The Boss:
Attention goes to power and control, potential betrayals and issues of fairness
Stress in Type: get aggressive with their opinions; become angry and blaming; deny their responsibility
Stress moving toward Stress Point: withdraw and take less action in the world; close down from feelings; become defeated or depressed; turn aggression inward
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: become overly dependent and emotional; collapse into shame and worthlessness
Type Nine, The Mediator:
Attention goes to others’ positions, keeping the peace, others agendas and needs
Stress in Type: get more distracted; collapse into feelings of worthlessness; try harder to control discomfort in the environment
Stress moving toward Stress Point: become overwhelmed with anxiety and worry; become more self-doubting, suspicious, and passive
Overwhelm moving toward Security/Heart Point: become overly focused on managing situations through activity; can become more blaming of others around all they have to do
