We’ll be gathering on Wednesday this week and I hope you can make it! The ongoing Cultivating Heart Community is a great place to get a taste for the Narrative Tradition – where people teach each other by sharing their perspectives and experiences. You do need to be familiar with your type and the system, so if you’re not, you can schedule a typing interview with me, just call 303-443-9055.
SAVE THE DATE: SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 10TH, is the next INTRODUCTORY ENNEAGRAM CLASS. TRULY, the best place to learn about the Enneagram or deepen your understanding.
Below you will find the text of last week’s newsletter in which I spoke about the importance of understanding our core beliefs. These core beliefs influence our perception at every level and how you perceive the world has everything to do with how you experience the world. Is the world a friendly place, a supportive place or a dangerous place? Check out my previous post Core Beliefs, Idealizations and Avoidances to get a flavor of what we’ll talk about. The great news is that with awareness, understanding, and friendliness towards our perceptions and the underlying beliefs, we have the possibility of updating our psyche rather than living according to these old tapes. Look forward to seeing you!
Wednesday, July 13th, is our next Cultivating Heart gathering. We’ll explore the core beliefs that keep us bound to our type.
The Enneagram can help us explore the core beliefs that we marry with a “until death do us part” kind of attitude. It was an arranged marriage that happened without our conscious consent when we were too young to know better. Our loyalty to these core beliefs helped us find our way in the world. It gave us our identity, like a ring on a finger can. I am someone! There was nothing wrong with this, but maybe you want something different…..
While these beliefs give us some sense of security, they can also be the basis of a debilitating relationship, with ourselves and with others. Remember, you were married to them before you could choose. But now you can. You can choose to appreciate and cherish that early marriage for what it gave you and then you can say, “I want to try something new.” While you may want a divorce, maybe you could settle for a change in the marriage contract. This is probably more realistic.
We can consciously see how we limit our possibilities through core beliefs like, “I’m not good enough,” or “people can’t be trusted,” or “I will never get what I want so why try,” or “feelings are not to be trusted,” or”¦..you get the idea. We can question the validity of these assumptions and decide differently. To choose something new, you must expose the hidden loyalties.
Come to our next gathering and let’s explore these core beliefs and the limitations they impose. There may be another way!