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The Power of an Enneagram Community

by Margot Burns Renée and Margot have just returned from Vallambrosa, the retreat center where the Enneagram in the Narrative Tradition is taught, studied and practice by individuals from all over the world. This particular weekend brought a group who have joined a learning community, individuals who brought their unique perspectives, their stories, their fears […]

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Feelings are not Emergencies

This phrase, “feelings are not emergencies,” was uttered to me over twenty years ago by my clinical group supervisor.  I was just out of graduate school and had begun a private psychotherapy practice.  She was helping us to mediate our responses to client’s intense emotions.  It was easy to feel like they were emergencies!  We’ve […]

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Another Perspective on Disintegration & Integration

A woman I’ll call Betty, who has the One type pattern, was sitting on a panel in one of my classes earlier in the year.  She was describing the sadness she felt regarding a move that took her granddaughter across the country.  Betty loves her dearly and misses her.  She had barely dipped into the […]

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Why the Enneagram? A personal story.

I remember being in therapy for the first time in my mid-twenties.  For a year and a half, I shared the suffering of my tendency to over-give and feel unappreciated.  I shared the deep sense of shame I felt.   The day is etched in my memory when I realized I was giving to get.  […]

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2012!

It’s the end of the year and I want to write something insightful and inspiring.  It needs to be authentic, witty, and touching too.  It’s how I set myself up when I think about having time off.  I want to be contemplative and playful, have solitude and good company, meditate and watch movies.  In other […]

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Notes from the Heart

Ah resistance, my friend.  You come in many disguises and sometimes I don’t recognize you.  As a core aspect of ego, I love to hate you, to blame you, to wave my fists in your face.  Not only is it difficult to spot you, but my fist waving often blurs my vision.  The inner struggle […]

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Cultivating the Heart

A couple of years ago, I became aware that I had an issue with trust.  I had recently become a HeartMath Practitioner and had begun utilizing their protocols personally and in my psychotherapy practice to intentionally cultivate positive emotions such as ease, care, and appreciation. One day I was working with a client on her […]

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Why the Narrative Tradition? by Terry Saracino

(this post is by my friend and colleague Terry Saracino who has written deeply on the beauty of the Narrative Tradition) May 8, 1989 Santa Fe, New Mexico I found myself sitting in a circle with 25 others from around the country in a beautiful room with windows all around for a week-long course on […]

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What is Compassionate Presence?

Most of us dream of being able to simply BE in the present moment, meeting reality as it is right then, without the preamble of past experience or the pull of future plans.  We’ve all had these experiences unbidden, when time seems to stop and we are simply and fully present.  Like when we laugh, […]

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A Little Diddy on Conflict

Why is conflict so prevalent and helpful?  Because it shows us where we are overly identified with our personal perspective.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t like it.  It usually feels like crap, yet coming out the other side feels soooo good. I was triggered last week by an interaction with an Enneagram colleague and […]

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